Lesson 42 Journey Through Adolescence 青少年旅程
Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty, or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents. Such a loss of dignity and descent into childish behaviour on the part of the adults deeply shocks the adolescents, and makes them resolve that in future they will not talk to their parents about the places or people they visit. Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it ca hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched if they realize how much belief their children usually have in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgement, they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by resenting and resisting it.
The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity,always respects a parent whoadmits that he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust.What the child cannot forgive is the parents' refusal to admit these charges if thechild knows them to be true.
Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude; in fact hey did nothing of the kind, but children were then too cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme, but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment. Slurn. 詆毀 Annoy vt.使生氣 Spiteful 惡意的，懷恨的 Dignity n.尊嚴(yán) Resolve vt.決心 Disillusionment n.幻滅感 Stand up to 經(jīng)得起 Infallibility n.一貫正確 Resent vt.怨恨 Sincerity n.誠摯 Charge n.指責(zé) Retreat vi.后退 Unreasoning a.不憑理智的 Authoritarian a.專制的Cow vt.嚇唬
slur put /cast a slur on sb. 給 ….以詆毀 slander 誹謗 （lesson31） backbite He backbites me. Smear 涂污，誹謗 Fame 名聲 Defame 誹謗 Defamation 誹謗
Annoy 程度not so strong 按程度分 irritate(煩了) anger fury（大發(fā)雷霆） 程度annoy=bother=displease=disturb 男女朋友吵架,令人心煩用 that really annoys me. 如用 that really angers me. 就分手了 annoying adj. You’re reading a book, a mosquito hovers. You can say “it’s annoying’
Vicious 惡毒的 Ill-natured 心眼懷的 Bitchy 惡毒的 Venom 毒液 Venomous 邪惡的
Indignity 侮辱 Keep dignity 守住面子 Lose dignity 丟面子 To lie is to lose one’s dignity. Illusion 幻想 幻覺 （沒有實際的幻想） I’m under illusion that I will be a billionaire. Fantasy 幻想 Fancy 幻想 Mirage 幻想 海市蜃樓 幻景 Massage 按摩 Message 信息
Stand up to (severe test /嚴(yán)峻考驗 rumor/流言 charge/指責(zé) criticism/批評 ) It’s raining hot（heavily）, I brave to school . 不顧風(fēng)雨 冒著雨
Fallible 有問題的 Flaw 瑕疵 flawless 無暇的 Fault 錯誤 faultless 無誤的 Impeccable 完美無缺的 Every man is fallible. = No one is infallible. 人無完人
Resent 按程度分 dislike resent hate loathe（very strong） grudge 因妒嫉而恨 ~ one’s success
criticize 批評 (find faults with sb.) blame 指責(zé) （neglect of duty ） I’m to blame (for ……) 是我的責(zé)任 Condemn denounce 譴責(zé)
Retreat I retreat to an armchair. 我一*坐到椅子上 I ~ to bed early. 我早早睡覺 A summer retreat 避暑勝地
Unreasoning 不靠理智推理 Unreasonable 不合邏輯的
Dictator 專制 Dictatorial 專制的 Tyrannical 殘暴的，專橫的 Domineering 霸道的 厲害的 Authoritative 權(quán)威的
Coward 膽小鬼 Cower 顫抖 Scare 驚嚇 Scare to death Bully 欺凌弱小者 Browbeat 恫嚇 My boss always browbeats me.
Upset 使心煩（unhappy） Slip into 溜進(jìn)去 Ungrateful child 不孝子孫 People/parents are often upset … Dine with sb. 和 … 吃飯 Furniture 家具 (un.) A piece /article /set of furniture Adolescent (13~16) Spoil himself 放肆 撒野 Accuse 指責(zé) accuse sb. of sth. Loyal 忠誠的 忠心的 ~ to sth. Disloyalty 不忠 Make remark = say On the part of =on their part 就他們而言 Before very long 很快 馬上 Long before 很久以前 Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is … 將來進(jìn)行時 表示預(yù)見性極強(qiáng) tight lipped 沉默的 they have brought this on themselves = as you sow = ffry oneself in one’s own juice 自找麻煩 however good and adequate they may be both= they may be both good and adequate however 用倒裝 adequate 稱職的=qualified Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the ……. , that it(ideal) can hardly hope to stand up to a …… Developing 養(yǎng)成 Power =ability 能力 Opposition 對立面 Resisting 拒絕 Tend to 不由自主的 表態(tài)度 loose lax extreme lenient
Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty, or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents. Such a loss of dignity and descent into childish behaviour on the part of the adults deeply shocks the adolescents, and makes them resolve that in future they will not talk to their parents about the places or people they visit. Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it ca hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched if they realize how much belief their children usually have in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgement, they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by resenting and resisting it.
The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity,always respects a parent whoadmits that he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust.What the child cannot forgive is the parents' refusal to admit these charges if thechild knows them to be true.
Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude; in fact hey did nothing of the kind, but children were then too cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme, but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment. Slurn. 詆毀 Annoy vt.使生氣 Spiteful 惡意的，懷恨的 Dignity n.尊嚴(yán) Resolve vt.決心 Disillusionment n.幻滅感 Stand up to 經(jīng)得起 Infallibility n.一貫正確 Resent vt.怨恨 Sincerity n.誠摯 Charge n.指責(zé) Retreat vi.后退 Unreasoning a.不憑理智的 Authoritarian a.專制的Cow vt.嚇唬
slur put /cast a slur on sb. 給 ….以詆毀 slander 誹謗 （lesson31） backbite He backbites me. Smear 涂污，誹謗 Fame 名聲 Defame 誹謗 Defamation 誹謗
Annoy 程度not so strong 按程度分 irritate(煩了) anger fury（大發(fā)雷霆） 程度annoy=bother=displease=disturb 男女朋友吵架,令人心煩用 that really annoys me. 如用 that really angers me. 就分手了 annoying adj. You’re reading a book, a mosquito hovers. You can say “it’s annoying’
Vicious 惡毒的 Ill-natured 心眼懷的 Bitchy 惡毒的 Venom 毒液 Venomous 邪惡的
Indignity 侮辱 Keep dignity 守住面子 Lose dignity 丟面子 To lie is to lose one’s dignity. Illusion 幻想 幻覺 （沒有實際的幻想） I’m under illusion that I will be a billionaire. Fantasy 幻想 Fancy 幻想 Mirage 幻想 海市蜃樓 幻景 Massage 按摩 Message 信息
Stand up to (severe test /嚴(yán)峻考驗 rumor/流言 charge/指責(zé) criticism/批評 ) It’s raining hot（heavily）, I brave to school . 不顧風(fēng)雨 冒著雨
Fallible 有問題的 Flaw 瑕疵 flawless 無暇的 Fault 錯誤 faultless 無誤的 Impeccable 完美無缺的 Every man is fallible. = No one is infallible. 人無完人
Resent 按程度分 dislike resent hate loathe（very strong） grudge 因妒嫉而恨 ~ one’s success
criticize 批評 (find faults with sb.) blame 指責(zé) （neglect of duty ） I’m to blame (for ……) 是我的責(zé)任 Condemn denounce 譴責(zé)
Retreat I retreat to an armchair. 我一*坐到椅子上 I ~ to bed early. 我早早睡覺 A summer retreat 避暑勝地
Unreasoning 不靠理智推理 Unreasonable 不合邏輯的
Dictator 專制 Dictatorial 專制的 Tyrannical 殘暴的，專橫的 Domineering 霸道的 厲害的 Authoritative 權(quán)威的
Coward 膽小鬼 Cower 顫抖 Scare 驚嚇 Scare to death Bully 欺凌弱小者 Browbeat 恫嚇 My boss always browbeats me.
Upset 使心煩（unhappy） Slip into 溜進(jìn)去 Ungrateful child 不孝子孫 People/parents are often upset … Dine with sb. 和 … 吃飯 Furniture 家具 (un.) A piece /article /set of furniture Adolescent (13~16) Spoil himself 放肆 撒野 Accuse 指責(zé) accuse sb. of sth. Loyal 忠誠的 忠心的 ~ to sth. Disloyalty 不忠 Make remark = say On the part of =on their part 就他們而言 Before very long 很快 馬上 Long before 很久以前 Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is … 將來進(jìn)行時 表示預(yù)見性極強(qiáng) tight lipped 沉默的 they have brought this on themselves = as you sow = ffry oneself in one’s own juice 自找麻煩 however good and adequate they may be both= they may be both good and adequate however 用倒裝 adequate 稱職的=qualified Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the ……. , that it(ideal) can hardly hope to stand up to a …… Developing 養(yǎng)成 Power =ability 能力 Opposition 對立面 Resisting 拒絕 Tend to 不由自主的 表態(tài)度 loose lax extreme lenient