When a Colleague Requests a Reference
同事請你做推薦人
陳豪在北京的ABC美國公司工作。他在餐廳里找到美國同Amy 。
(Office ambience)
A: Hello Chen Hao. How are you?
C: 還行。不過，我有點(diǎn)事想征求一下你的意見。
A: What is it?
C: 你認(rèn)識我們辦公室的Sue嗎？
A: I've worked on a couple of projects with her. Why?
C: 我告訴你，你可得保密，Sue正在找工作。
A: Why is that a problem?
C: 她讓我做她的推薦人。
A: That bothers you?
C: Sue工作不是很靠譜，推薦她，那不等于說瞎話嘛！
A: What did you say when she came to you?
C: 我沒直接回答她。我說那份新工作聽上去是個(gè)不錯的機(jī)會，然后就假稱要開會，逃掉了。
A: I have a couple of suggestions for you.
C: 太好了，你快告訴我。我今天一天都躲躲藏藏的，生怕遇到Sue。
A: Let's sit down over there.
兩人坐下，邊吃邊聊。
C: Amy，你快說說，我該怎么辦。
A: Sue must have some positive traits or she wouldn't be working here.
C: 優(yōu)點(diǎn)肯定是有，不過我得仔細(xì)想想。
A: I suggest that you make a list of her strengths.
C: 可她的缺點(diǎn)要比優(yōu)點(diǎn)多得多。
A: Try not to focus on her shortcomings, but list them out, too. You can call them areas where she needs to grow.
C: 需要改進(jìn)的地方？那人家給我打電話，了解Sue的情況，我該怎么說呢？
A: You begin by saying that she is a good team player, but could benefit from the opportunity to work independently and grow professionally. That makes you honest.
C: 有道理，我就說她很容易相處，但是如果有一個(gè)獨(dú)立工作，需要精湛技能的機(jī)會，將對她有幫助?？墒茿my,我怎么才能不去提她的缺點(diǎn)呢？
A: Let the interviewer know that you have worked with Sue on a limited basis so you can only speak about your experience on the team.
C: 就說，跟Sue共事機(jī)會不多，有些情況沒有發(fā)言權(quán)。Amy，我有個(gè)更簡單的辦法，要不我這段時(shí)間干脆不接電話了，留言也不回。
A: That's cowardly. Besides it will reflect poorly on you.
C: 要這么說，不回電子郵件也行不通了。
A: You have another choice. You can tell Sue that you aren't comfortable in giving references to her because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
C: 這樣好。我就說自己英語不好，搞不好詞不達(dá)意，再說錯了話。
A: It is difficult when a colleague who is not a good worker asks you for a reference.
C: 你能在重復(fù)一遍，我都有哪些選擇嗎？
A: If you agree to be a reference, rehearse what you plan to say. Don't allow yourself to be drawn into areas where you are not comfortable.
同事請你做推薦人
陳豪在北京的ABC美國公司工作。他在餐廳里找到美國同Amy 。
(Office ambience)
A: Hello Chen Hao. How are you?
C: 還行。不過，我有點(diǎn)事想征求一下你的意見。
A: What is it?
C: 你認(rèn)識我們辦公室的Sue嗎？
A: I've worked on a couple of projects with her. Why?
C: 我告訴你，你可得保密，Sue正在找工作。
A: Why is that a problem?
C: 她讓我做她的推薦人。
A: That bothers you?
C: Sue工作不是很靠譜，推薦她，那不等于說瞎話嘛！
A: What did you say when she came to you?
C: 我沒直接回答她。我說那份新工作聽上去是個(gè)不錯的機(jī)會，然后就假稱要開會，逃掉了。
A: I have a couple of suggestions for you.
C: 太好了，你快告訴我。我今天一天都躲躲藏藏的，生怕遇到Sue。
A: Let's sit down over there.
兩人坐下，邊吃邊聊。
C: Amy，你快說說，我該怎么辦。
A: Sue must have some positive traits or she wouldn't be working here.
C: 優(yōu)點(diǎn)肯定是有，不過我得仔細(xì)想想。
A: I suggest that you make a list of her strengths.
C: 可她的缺點(diǎn)要比優(yōu)點(diǎn)多得多。
A: Try not to focus on her shortcomings, but list them out, too. You can call them areas where she needs to grow.
C: 需要改進(jìn)的地方？那人家給我打電話，了解Sue的情況，我該怎么說呢？
A: You begin by saying that she is a good team player, but could benefit from the opportunity to work independently and grow professionally. That makes you honest.
C: 有道理，我就說她很容易相處，但是如果有一個(gè)獨(dú)立工作，需要精湛技能的機(jī)會，將對她有幫助?？墒茿my,我怎么才能不去提她的缺點(diǎn)呢？
A: Let the interviewer know that you have worked with Sue on a limited basis so you can only speak about your experience on the team.
C: 就說，跟Sue共事機(jī)會不多，有些情況沒有發(fā)言權(quán)。Amy，我有個(gè)更簡單的辦法，要不我這段時(shí)間干脆不接電話了，留言也不回。
A: That's cowardly. Besides it will reflect poorly on you.
C: 要這么說，不回電子郵件也行不通了。
A: You have another choice. You can tell Sue that you aren't comfortable in giving references to her because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
C: 這樣好。我就說自己英語不好，搞不好詞不達(dá)意，再說錯了話。
A: It is difficult when a colleague who is not a good worker asks you for a reference.
C: 你能在重復(fù)一遍，我都有哪些選擇嗎？
A: If you agree to be a reference, rehearse what you plan to say. Don't allow yourself to be drawn into areas where you are not comfortable.